Can I just tell you that I LOVE THE KNOT... and all of the girls on it.. we call ourselves  "Knotties"

I have been on the discussion boards for a while now... and there are so many nice people... so supportive.  Take this post as an example.  It was on the "Bridal Party" Board.  Read and you will see why I love them so much... they are so helpful!

I was fired! *Long*

This is my first post on this board, and it will be kind of a long one... but I didn't know where else to put this. It will be kind of long becasue I guess I have to give a lot of the back story before I ask the question.

This girl that I know, we will call her C, got married about a month ago. After she got engaged, she asked me to be her MOH. After helping her with the wedding plans for 2 months, even going with her to try on wedding dresses, she asked me one day if I would be pissed if I weren't in the wedding. She said that she "promised someone else when they were little girls that no matter what, they would be in each other's wedding, and there is not enough room for another BM" Of course I was pissed! I told her that I was pissed that she would even wonder if I would be mad. I told her that if she kicked me out of the wedding, that I would not even be there the day that she got married (which I was not) To make this hurt even worse, she did not even have the balls to ask me in person, even on the phone... she did it one day when I was at work over Instant Messenger.

C and I were Best Friends... we have known each other for 10 years, and were very close since our Junior year in high school. For the past couple of years, we did everything together! We were inseperable. After she met her FI (now DH) things between us changed a little... we didn't do as much together, but that was understandable. We still had lunch dates to talk about the wedding plans and everything.

"Not having enough room" was the only reason that she ever gave me about giving me the boot. She later told my sister that her grandma did not want me in the wedding. She also called my little cousin and told her that she didn't feel that "I supported her marriage..." (which was NOT true... I was happy for her!)

Now that I am engaged, of course, I would not dream of asking her to be in my BP, because obviously our friendship did not mean anything to her, but here is the problem... I miss her! C was my only close girlfriend. I could talk to her about anything and everything...she knew me better than anyone. What do I do now? FI and everyone else says that I should just let this go, and not even think about it... but I miss having that girl friend that I had such a close relationship with. I know that even if we were to talk things out, that our relationship would not ever be the same... I also want answers... why did she kick me out? What did I do wrong?

Sorry this is so long... I just have been thinking about this a lot lately since I have been planning my wedding.

What would you do? TIA!

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Replies:

Well I am sorry that happened to you, but if you still feel compelled to buy her a wedding gift, I think you should buy her a knife set and put on the card - Here are some knives so you can stab other friends in the back! <I think that is so awesome>

She obiviously has issues with the friendship and it is best to cut your losses and move on. It sucks and it hurts allow yourself time to mourn the friendship but do not dwell to long on it.

I am skipping class to study for a test... is that a good excuse??